I'm 23 and have been at school 10 hours away from the girl i love for the past 3 months. I'm the nice guy that tries to do all the right things. I've bought her roses, a necklace, earings, taken her out to dinner, sent her random love letters, planned an elaborate valentine's day, everything that girls always tell me they want. I told her i needed to go back to school to get a career to support our future family and she was upset obviously because i would be away from her. Things were a little shaky long distance but we'd still talk on the phone as much as we could about marriage and how excited we were to be with each other and have a family together. I've been saving up for a ring so that when i get home i can propose to her. We had a week break and during that break she bought the book "Why Men Love Bit*hes". When we next talked she told me all these things she read in it. Most of it didn't apply to me at all and i was confused because she said it helped her make the decision that we should break up.

After we got off the phone i immediately ordered the book and read it myself. Sherry Agrov had some amazing insights and great points that i completely agree with that will help a lot of women get out of hurtful relationships to guys that are lazy and just use and abuse women. I made notes in the book and even highlighted some sections.

Some things however i dis-agreed with and felt like because of it my gf took it to heart and changed herself to try and be like what sherry describes as the powerful "biatch" all men want.

Now when we talk i can see when she is trying something out of one of the chapters, like telling me about all the dates she's been on to get me jealous and run after her.

So instead of getting married like we planned she's starting school in the fall and has told me that she's not willing to sacrifice that and that im the one that will have to sacrifice it and quit school to be with her...I understand the part about making sure you're independent and don't revolve your life around someone else but now i have to give up my last 2 years of school and not get a good paying career to support our future family so that she can feel independent and in control of her life? I'm sorry but some of the things in this book that sherry is trying to teach to women is actually ruining good relationships.

I would only recommend this book to women who feel like they always end up with guys who don't appreciate them and take them for granted, are lazy, and don't put in an effort in the relationship. Everyone has to make sacrifices, don't change yourself to what this book says you need to be to feel like a "biatch". Sure men love independent women but they don't like women who say that a man needs to sacrifice everything including an education to be with them while they do what they want instead. I will do all that i can to be with a girl that i love and i will chase after her, but do not play games, do not try to control, and do not change your personality to fit an author's ideal.

Why Men Love Bitches - It's a good book but its superficial and she repeats the same thing over and over agian. And the other thing that got me questioning myself abouth the book was why in the world does she tell you to be independent and then tells you what to do so he will like you. Its good for some relashionships but not all. the other thing she only refers to one of the many types of man that there are in these world so remember one thing take the positive things about the book but dont beleave that everything it says is right, not for all situations.