Written on: 17/04/2009
There are none.. I own both books
Sherry Argov, Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship, in a nutshell: Stop being the traditional nice girl, i.e., bending over backwards for a man, ' jumping through hoops '. You come first, him second, fitting him into your life when it ' s feasible for you; Using your womanly guile to attract and keep him. Being a Bitch means never being mean to a man, she ' s ultra feminine. She simply shows, for the most part, rather than tells, or ' spilling her guts ' as to how she expect to be treated with respect. Simply, it ' s about her, ALWAYS. It ' s about being unobtainable and keeping that personal mystery about yourself that keeps a man chasing you for years, never catching you, yet loving the chase. Having that ' Je ne sais quois 'She goes into different scenarios and stories of how this mystery is displayed. Knowing when to flatter a man instead of nagging him to get what you want or need done, yet never behaving as if you can do everything yourself, or as she says,'you ' ll be stuck doing every thing '. Moving to the beat of your own drum and ' driving your train effortlessly ', being independent of him, ' owning your own pink slip ' financially. In the sequel, she gives scenarios for getting him to marry you and saying and acting in the complete opposite way of a woman who ' s looking to get married. i.e., how to never mention marriage or kids, unless you ' re not interested in him and want to scare him away to begin with ; Never moving in with a man unless you have a ring and a date set beforehand. ' Men listen to no contact with them, not nagging words ', when you ' re tired of asking for what you want. She goes on to list different scenarios of how men may behave and how a woman should react to this pattern of behavior. Scenarios like, if he takes a few hours to call you, take a few hours to call him back, how men will test you with bad behavior to ' see how you scrap ', if you can hold your own emotionally. And like, if a man shows that he ' s crule 'get out. Game Over. In essence, she gives a common sense approach on how any woman should handle herself without losing herself , keeping your own sense of ' self ', applying her techniques to counter act how men may behave towards her at any given time from the beginning of the relationship to the point of him ' fence sitting ' as to if he wants to be in a relationship with you and ultimately stating what you need and if he isn ' t prepared to give it, you ' re out the door and aren ' t afraid to let the words'See ya later ' roll of your tongue at any time.
I love her approach to it all.