One of the many sites run by the same people (same screen design, same pricing structure, same rules) it clearly exists purely to part men from their money. Within seconds of setting up an account I received my first 'wink' so I checked out 'her' profile only to find it didn't exist. I've no doubt that, we're I to stump up some wedge, I'd find all the 'interest' in me (winks and messages I can't yet read) will evaporate. Treat it like pure entertainment (like astrology or a tarot reading) and you'll be fine. But expect to find a 'mate' and you'll be sorely disappointed!

Unconvinced that the 5 star reviews are genuine ... Signing on for the free option, I received numerous 'private messages'. One looked particularly interesting, so I signed up in order to read it and spent about an hour composing a reply. The message bounced as being outside the lady's filters. I think the message was genuine, but broadcast scattergun and rather misleadingly tagged as 'private'. It would not kill the programmer to ensure that recipients would be of interest to her, buy cross-checking against her filters. Other supposed 'messages' came from people whose profile was inactive. They're just taking the mickey to get you to subscribe (although this is hardly the only site committing this sin). Add in far too many ladies who think crotch shots sexy - some simple photo decorum rules would not go amiss; we know what it looks like, madam! - and you get a very disappointing experience.

I joined the site over a year ago and though reasonably entertained I didn't take it too seriously. My partner indulged herself at the same time and what our experiences were was revealing. She had a massive amount of attention in a very short period of time so good you might think. Well no, apart from a handful of individuals who in their emails appeared balanced and sane the remainder were in her words 'annoying, creepy stalkers who just wanted to tell you they had abused themselves over your picture'. For me initially things looked good then I was flooded with emails from girls under 25 (not the profile I was looking for) who had either incomplete profiles or even details that didn't match the picture. A good few had watermarks from commercial sites. The few emails or messages I replied to inevitably wanted to subscribe to external websites to chat. Hmm forget it.Complained to the site administrators but little assistance or signs of clean up. There were other odd things going on but in short don't bother. The site either has a massive trespass problem or the owners are seeding the profiles.

I signed up with this site to see what the fuss was about but did nothing more than enter male and my age. Within hours I was bombarded with emails telling me numerous women had reviewed my profile, sent me emails and wanted to chat. It was so obvious the supposed emails were bogus and doubtless sent by the website who then constantly hassle you to upgrade. If anyone is interested then a much better site is fabswingers.com which is free!

This site is seriously let down by its hardware and software. Be wary of paying by any card. You could find yourself charged multiple times for one subscription. As to activity. As one lady says on the site many of the men are perverted so that sets the tone! The review stating high membership and mature professional ladies is blatantly written by the company and far from true. Expect to be bombarded with e-mails every day of which 90% plus will be spam or fake e-mails. There are an incredible number of scam women descriptions which evade the company's scan routines with consumate ease because the scan routine is so poor and simple. Overall a total waste of time and money unless you are looking for tintillating chat which is about all this site can deliver.

Only paid up members can read mail. None members can only read 30 characters of the subject. I don't believe any man can say what it takes to get a woman to join in just 30 characters. There is no way to find out who is a paid up member and thus worth sending messages to - this is why ease of navigation is low. All of these attributes SHOUT SCAM!! Completely unbelievable that with the chat up line

I read various good reviews (though they were often very similar) so registered for free. Over the course of the next three or four days I received about a dozen emails and invitations from women apparently keen to get their hands on me, but of course I couldn't read the emails or respond unless I purchased a paid subscription. I was then offered a three day trial membership for £2.99 - so thought what the heck, it's only £2.99. I joined, but having done so, the first thing I did was cancel the automatic repeat billing, as I wanted to check the results before paying any more. From the moment they had my money, i didn't receive a single new email or invitation, and those who had written to me previously failed to respond to my replies. After three days I decided it was best to forget about it. Then, a couple of weeks later, I noticed that my credit card had been debited another £19.95 monthly membership fee. I queried this and asked for a refund. I was told that I couldn't have a refund unless I forwarded the email I received confirming the cancellation of automatic rebilling. I never received any such email, and so was unable to forward it. However, they then agreed to refund the £19.95 anyway, which is the only reason they get two stars instead of only one. So, even though I wasn't aware of it for most of the time, i was actually technically a paying member for about three weeks. During this time I did not recive a single email or invitation to chat. However, surprise surprise, since I became a free member again, the emails have started to arrive again. Needless to say, if I want to read them, I have to pay again. I leave you to draw your own conclusions.

As a women on dating sites such as UndercoverLovers.com I seldom if ever have to pay. So value for money is rarely an issue. What is, is the calibre of men on a particular dating website. I've been a member of several of the married dating sites (before you start moralizing on me, it's done with my disabled husband's sanction). On all of them I've been bombarded by men as soon as I've signed up, a few of them suitable but the majority nothing like I'm looking for. This can make the whole process extremely taxing. On Undercover Lovers it's different. Firstly there seem to be far more women on the site, thus making it a less frenetic environment. Secondly you can choose security settings to restrict who views you on the site. Thus you feel far more in control of the process. I'm not the most technical lady on the planet, but I found Undercover Lovers very easy and intuitive to navigate and use. Most importantly though I met my lovely, perfect extra-curricular fella on the site and that's worth 5 stars any time!