Written on: 21/04/2012
After two failed marrages, a cuple of kids, and little time nor inclination to go out and try to find a new partner, I decided to try internet dating, I knew a few cuples who had successfuly met that way, eHarmony's adverts along with other sites were frequently on TV.
I decided tha eHarmony offered what I thought the right support I was looking for, I'm not particularly good with computers but found joining and filling my profiles easy.
My first profile was simple and without photo, I didn't have any photos on my computer, like everything in life, the early days was a bit of a learning process, I would read through matches sent to me, and picked up on how I could improve my own profile, I invested in digital camara, and was then able to upload pictures.
Although I was signed up to the site for two years, I did not always have send matches switched on, like if I were in comunications with someone, or just feeling like a rest from it all.
Comunicating was also a learning process, at the start I would usualy proceed using guided comunications, and question and answer bit etc, I didn't find this part of the process helped at all, and seldome got past this bit to email stage, in the end I just skipped guided comunications and found I wasn't alone at finding the guided bit any help.
For me personaly I had thought about the most important aspect in finding a partner, as felt at my age I was running out of time to find the happiness I had always been looking for. That was the key point I felt needed to find in my surch! So after trials and errors of the months of online dating, I had a profile I was happy with, and stuck to the important traits I wanted my potentual match to have, for me that was , 1, To be happy and content with themselves. 2. Having similar intrests, 3. I also looked outside the area I live, I surpose I was looking for a fresh start in my life. or just a little afraid of someone latching onto me to quickly, in simple terms only something special would endure the distance.
So there I was sending ice breakers to profiles that cought my attention, with nothing realy getting off the ground, and then in early May 2011, Brian's profile dropped into my inbox, If I was honest I didn't think I stood a chance, for what ever reasons we were both having comperter problems at the time, and we exchanged our own email addresses, something I wouldn't necessaraly recomend others do. emailing one another continued for quite sometime, longer than I emagined it would, I had asked if we could talk on the phone, Brian was quite busy during that summer with his own personal life, for me I always looked forward to gatting emails from him, and figgered that he was worth the wait, by September, holidays and actevities were coming to an end Brian, I hoped he would agree to talk, and asked again, at the same time wanted to give Brian an easy out! if that's what he wanted, a week of nervouse heart in the mouth of waiting for Brian to decide what to do, he was worried about the distance, and had had a bad experience before, and said he would love to talk but felt we could only be friends, I was initialy dissapointed at waiting so long to get to talk, and hopefuly meet up at some point, but also glad he had agreed to talk. I resigned myself to the idea that to find a friend was better than nothing, but secretly hoped once we talked we would get to know one another better, and that Brian would change his mind, so there we finaly got to talk, (the ice breaker I sent to him in May was, Would you like to talk?) we took in turn to phone just once a week, we found talking easy to do with lots of things in common, we also frequently sent emails and pictures, and then at Christmas, I asked if I could have his address so I could send him a xmas card, he was happy to and also sent me one too. Christmas is that time of year when one reflects on the year that is coming to an end, and Brian being on his own had more time to himself, we were phoning most days by then, and on the 27th Decedmber, he dropped into conversation he would love to meet me after all, I was slightly shocked, and made him wait till the next day to reply, of course I'd been waiting along time to hear those words, and how do we get on! Like peas in a pod, We have spent lots of times together since then, i text a thank you to him after spending easter with him, he replied, " Thanks also, it goes without saying what a pleasure it is to be in your company, and looking forward to seeing you soon." he never sends x's or says that he loves me but I know that he does.
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